Thursday, 20 July 2017

A female doctor?

Have you heard this riddle?
A man and his son are in a car accident. They're rushed to hospital. The man is okay but the son needs surgery. When they arrive the doctor says "I cannot operate, he is my son!" How is this possible? 

The answer, is that the doctor is the sons mother. The majority of people don't get that answer. If they do it's not the first answer people often guess or even guess that quickly. 

Women have been practising medicine for openly for some time now. So why is it when news came out that the next Dr Who would be a women the dark side of the internet rose en masse. Not even a real doctor, a fictional character. 

Jodie Whittaker is a brilliant actress known for her work in critical drama Broadchurch. Does anyone think that she isn't capable of playing the role based on her talent and education as an actress? No.

What people seem to be annoyed about is that she is playing what has consistently been a male role. The Doctor is an alien. Who's to say what gender or sexuality they might be? 

It's an interesting move from the BBC, to throw the gauntlet down and Challenge that notion. A female doctor has been called for for ages now. I grew up with Dr Who, but I fell away from the show around the era of Matt Smith because I wasn't able to relate to it anymore.  

It makes my heart happy to think of the children who get to grow up looking up to a female Doctor. I hope they make the most of the opportunities this presents, particularly as the relationships we've seen the Doctor have have all been with cisgender heterosexual women. Will we see not just the first female doctor but also the first lesbian or bisexual doctor?

Just some interesting thoughts. 

Abi x

Tuesday, 18 July 2017

Round up: #carnlival


So I was lucky enough to attend my first #CarnLIVal event just the other week. The event is growing to be one of my fave days of the year thanks to Katy and Sam.


This time we all descended into the depths of Yard and Coop for party games and fun. 
Once everyone had arrived we were all given a pin to pop a balloon and receive a raffle ticket. It was hilarious way to hand them out and everyone had a good giggle.
I made quick work of their £5 cocktail list, my favourite of which was the Bubble Butt...literally my mouth is watering thinking about it again haha...



We had the infamous naughty and nice bags, in which I came away with enough condoms to last me for years and a load of yummy sweets!  

When the raffle rolled round, the prizes including everything from Wax and Wicks candles, to a sex box full of supplies! I was lucky enough to win a voucher for a meal at Gustos restaurant, a restaurant I've been before and loved.








Every #carnLIVal event brings opportunities to meet new bloggers and catch up with old friends. This time round was no exception. Keeping with the party theme we all played stick the camera on the Blogger. Technically I was the most right as I "accidentally" stuck mine to Sam and not the bogger poster on the wall!

To cap off a great afternoon, the whole blogger squad was invited to Breakout Liverpool for a challenge. I was placed in a team with fellow bloggers Kiah and Danielle to breakout the tough Classified room. We only just did it with minutes to spare but I'm super proud of our teamwork and success!








Everyone was lucky enough to leave with a goody bag,  I've included a few pics of some of our goodies here. Everyone had a big surprise by far when they pulled out a vibrator! Still the bags were padded out with more PG items like yummy lip balms and tea.










I loved attending #carnLIVal, so thank you for having me! 

Abi x

Roll on next time!! ;)

Thursday, 13 July 2017

Blog tour: Ask No Questions by Lisa Hartley


Hello folks! Welcome back to this wee blog. This weeks offering is a review as part of t
he recent blog tour for Lisa Hartley's novel: Ask No Questions.

Summary:
Some secrets were meant to stay hidden… Trust no-one

After an operation goes badly wrong, undercover specialist Detective Caelan Small leaves the Metropolitan Police for good. Or so she thinks. Then the criminal responsible is seen back in the UK.

Soon Caelan is drawn back into a dangerous investigation. But when the main lead is suddenly murdered, all bets are off. Nothing is as it seems. Everyone is a suspect - even close colleagues.

Someone in the Met is involved and Caelan is being told to Ask No Questions.

This isn’t an option: Caelan needs answers… whatever the cost.

The nerve-shredding new crime thriller from bestseller Lisa Hartley starts a must-read new series. Perfect for fans of Angela Marsons and Robert Bryndza, it will keep you guessing until the very end.

About the Book

Title: Ask No Questions
Author: Lisa Hartley
Release Date: 10th July 2017
Genre: Thriller
Format: Ebook


About the author


Lisa Hartley lives with her partner, son, two dogs and several cats. She graduated with a BA (Hons) in English Studies, then had a variety of jobs but kept writing in her spare time. In addition to this new series with Canelo she is also working on the next DS Catherine Bishop novel.

Review:
 I thoroughly enjoyed this novel from start to finish. The stand out for me was the main character Caelan. Her story is one of revenge that draws the reader deeper and deeper into hidden answers. She was so fierce and admirable throughout.
I've talked in the past about being excited for future offerings after reading an authors work. To me its a sign that I've really been "hooked" into the story and world created. This offering from Hartley strongly gave me this feeling. The twists with the police make me excited for what she might come up with next.
Overall, solid 9/10 for me. It's a great thriller and would be loved if you enjoy crime books as much as I do. 


Abi x


ps: I was kindly sent a copy of Ask No Questions to review, all opinions were my own!

Friday, 23 June 2017

Book review// Perfect Score by Susan Roebuck

Hi there! Welcome back to a new Book review! This post is about a lovely book I was asked to review written by Susan Roebuck.

About the author:


 
My first love is, of course, my husband, my second writing, and my third painting. And now I have time to be able to indulge in all three.
My debut novel, "Perfect Score" was published by Awe-Struck Publishing on Sept 21, 2010 and the paperback was launched on May 11 2011. In May 2017 Mundania Press re-released the ebook.
Perfect Score was an EPIC (Electronic Publishing Industry Coalition) finalist in the 2012 EPIC e-Book Awards in the Mainstream Category.
"Perfect Score" is set in mid West USA in the 1960s and is a story about family relationships, corruption, growing up, integrity, responsibility, and being a man of worth in a society of the worthless.
"Hewhay Hall" is my second novel, published by Etopia Press on April 20, 2012. It has won the EPIC (Electronic Publishing Industry Coalition) 2013 e-Book Award in the Horror Category (an EPPIE)

Book synopsis:

Feckless, exasperating Alex Finch is a rich, handsome and talented singer/songwriter who longs for two things: a career as a professional rock singer, and to have his love for Sam Barrowdale reciprocated. But drifter Sam's two aims are simply to earn enough money to pay his sister's medical bills and to hide from the world his reading/writing and speech disability. At this time the word "dyslexia" is generally unknown so to most people he's just a "retard". From the severe knocks life's dealt him, Sam's developed a tough outer coating and he has no time for a spoilt, selfish guitar player.

Despite his defects, Alex's love for Sam never wavers and when Sam unexpectedly disappears, Alex begins a somewhat bungling quest to find him, only to discover that Sam has a fearful enemy: Alex's powerful and influential yet sociopathic uncle.

As Alex spirals downwards towards alcoholism, many questions need answering. Just why did Alex's evil uncle adopt him at age eleven yet deny him any affection? And what's the mystery behind Alex's father's death?

Both seem to face unbeatable odds. Are they doomed to follow separate paths forever?


 Review:
Perfect Score  is a clever story that tells the tale of two unique characters who face varying challenges. Sam has had a hard life, growing up on the streets, he works in a mix of jobs to fund healthcare for his sister. His life is intertwined with Alex a troubled musician, who is funded by his wealthy Uncle, who expects him to enter the family business. The story takes place in the rugged prairies of the 1960's. A beautiful backdrop for a burgeoning romance. 
Overall I rated the book 8/10. The characters had such complexity and depth to them it was hard not to become engrossed by the novel. The tale focuses not just on love but on family values, how whats expected of us can alter our path in life and how whats perceived as "manly". I particularly like the fact that the relationship between the main characters does not feel forced, it fits naturally into the setting of the novel and its main themes.

The book is available on Amazon and Goodreads.

Abi x

This book was kindly sent to me to review.

Monday, 19 June 2017

When your ex is seeing someone new...

I found out recently that my ex is seeing someone else. Even though I rarely think about him it made me feel really weird. Part of me was upset about it, naturally, we don't like to think the other person might just be okay after a split. Surely their life ended the minute you stopped sharing one?  So to hear this was a big shock for me.

On the other hand, it made me feel relieved. It's like a validation that it's  been long enough since the end of the relationship that's okay to start properly seeing other people again. Thank you wanker ex for establishing that.  
 
It's okay to feel upset. You may have fully acknowledged the relationship was over to yourself much sooner than this but its still a big break up milestone. Here are a few things that went through my head, and might be of help to you if you're in the same position.
  1. Its only natural to want to compare yourself to the new person. Don't. It's not worth the upset. Honestly. Just remind yourself you've probably changed since the separation, so why can't your ex? Maybe their looking for different things in the people date now. 
  2. People can date a wide variety of people. Who they date next is not a reflection on you. See above point for the fact that people change.
  3. Remember that your relationship had good points (I hope) too. They are what make the time and effort and eventual loss worth it. At this point it may feel natural to start seeking out new memories with someone new too. 
  4. Your ex is dick. I don't care who ended it, how it ended or anything. At the end of the day they are  one. It's their loss through and through that you are not together. You are awesome and amazing and can do anything the hell you want. Hold onto that fiery anger to help see you through this tough patch.
  5. Go date yourself. If you don't feel up to dating anyone else, then go enjoy yourself on your own. It sounds silly but I'd 10/10 recommend it. Check out my posts about self dating here.
Just a few things to think about. At the end of the day it's not the end of the world. After a break up your ex will eventually move on, it'd never going to be an easy thing to hear. So just enjoy yourself and forget about them. Don't be afraid to be upset about but equally don't be upset if you're not that assed either. There's no right or wrong way to react. Just let you, be you.

Have you any advice on this kind of situation? 

Abi x

Friday, 16 June 2017

I ran a bloody half marathon

That's right I did it. 28th May 2017 I dragged my nervous ass around 13 miles of beautiful Liverpool in the Liverpool Rock'n'Roll half marathon.
It was epic. It's not a lie to say I loved doing it. Seeing so many people challenging themselves both physically and mentally. All the supporters out along the route were lovely, even if no one I knew was there. 
 
Most of all I'm proud that I set the goal to finish, trained for it for  months then went and smashed it! 
If I'm being honest I didn't come away unscathed. I was sore for a few days after. And if you're grossed out, I'm sorry about the next line or so. I ended up with a massive blood blister under on of my toenails. Totally grim and I'm still half expecting the nail to fall off... ewwww! 
I already know that I want to run another race. I've already up for some local 10ks. My next goal is to run a half marathon next year and get my time under 2hrs30. Overall I loved the experience and can't wait for my next big race! 


Have you ever run a half marathon? 

Abi x

Monday, 12 June 2017

Being supportive

You know how all the blogger tips say to make a distinct title? Well not me, as per I've gone for something a bit vague. The truth is this post is a bit vague but it's something that's been playing around in my head for a while.

I want to talk about supporting other peoples choices and lifestyles. About how you don't have to be the same as someone to support them and help to make the best life for themselves that they can.

To do this I've asked permission from my younger sibling to tell you a bit about them. My younger sister identifies as gender fluid. Yep I said sister, because she's happy to let me carry on saying that, and to use the pronoun she/her. She's really flexible with it. I'm honoured that she feels comfortable chatting to me about how she feels and how it changes for her personally. It's not something that is always easy for her to express herself about.
I try to respect the fact that some days she feels much more masculine than feminine. That although she might wear a dress and heels today, tomorrow it could be a mans shirt and jeans.What I try to do is facilitate.
I tried to explain to a friend why I wasn't bothered about compliments. That I do them for me, my outward appearance is an extension of myself. Any changes I make are for me, they're not for others validation. I view others in a similar way. How they dress or what make up or what hairstyle they do isn't for my benefit. I don't exist to validate my sister's choices as she experiments with her gender, her style. Instead we talk about it, I offer suggestions. I talk about things with our parents, who don't necessarily see things in the same way. Seeing the choices as a quirk or a phase. I help to explain to them that its an expression of how my sister is feeling that day and that outward appearance may also come hand in hand with a different view on things.
I love seeing the different ways she expresses herself. The different styles she experiments with.
This feels very rambley but it's something I find hard to express myself. To me it's keeping an open attitude to others. It's the difference between being part of a discussion but not stepping over someone else voice. It's something my relationship with my sister has only helped to strengthen.

On the other hand, my relationship with my brother has only recently started to improve. My younger brother smokes cigarettes. Has done for several years. When it first came out I was furious. Why was he doing it? He's more than intelligent enough to know the risks. I was so, so mad with him. In fact I was the only person who really was. It took me a long time to accept that even though I think its a stupid choice to make its his choice to make. That I can continue to be angry and ruin the time me and my brother spend together. Or I can accept that it is his choice to carry on smoking. We both know I'm still not happy about it, but I respect his right to choose what he wants to do with his own life.
For me it was difficult to acknowledge but I had to step away and take my own thoughts and beliefs about smoking out the equation. I love my siblings dearly, and even if its hard I will always support their choices even if I don't necessarily agree with them.

Have you ever found it hard to step back and keep an open mind with people you care about?

Abi x