Saturday, 13 May 2017

I don't need your validation

In my head that's said to the intro of Rolling Stones Satisfaction... It seems a dramatic title but actually it's meant as a gentle nudge of education.
I consider myself quite a confident person, I'm mostly quite comfortable in my own skin. To me, a lot of that comes from the fact that I don't use others opinions of me to validate my own. 
Deep, I know. It's something that is easier to say than do. It's something that's taken me a few years to really accept about myself. In fact I used to think I was a bit weird growing up because I didn't seem to want the same stuff other girls at school wanted. 
 
From 14+ I stopped paying attention to what the popular kids were doing because it was never things I could see myself doing. I would spend every minute available reading, to the extent that I'd read whilst walking between classes(yes, I did fall over a few times) because that's what I enjoyed doing. 

I was lucky in that I had a small core group of friends(you know who you are) who understood that that's what I'd do every lunch and break. People that knew I would crack sarcastic  comments and slightly inappropriate remarks at every opportunity. I didn't need the validation of the people around me to be myself. Instead of made friends with people who would accept me as I wanted to be. To me, that meant that the only person who's opinion I would be bothered by was my own.

What I'm saying is, at the end of the day, surround yourself with people who make you relaxed. If you catch yourself acting other than you would naturally  ask yourself why is that? Why don't you feel you comfortable being yourself around them? 

I guess what this rambles mess is trying to say is that we don't need others validation. It's such a bloody simple thing but it can take years to actually live it.

Abi x


Thursday, 11 May 2017

Pinky pins haul

Hey guys! This post is actually pretty self explanatory. I recently took the plunge and bought a denim jacket. Doesn't sound like much of a plunge but it really is for me. For a long time I had this idea that they didn't suit me. I'm not sure where this came from but I decided to challenge it. 
I literally tried on about 20 jackets that I'd liked on the hanger and I was surprised to find most then looked alright. (Shocking). 
In the end I chose this bad boy from Forever 21. It was a steal at £23 ( plus I used my blue light card for an extra 10% off). My only bug bear is that if has two fake pockets at the top. Like why do clothes manufacturers do that? It's seriously bloody annoying haha. Otherwise I really love my wee jacket, and have worn a lot with this nice weather we've had going on.
In order to do it justice for me though, I wanted to add a little bit of chars here to it. 
If you look online there's tons of places selling patches and pins at the moment. For me, I wanted try out Punky Pins, there products always seem to have that little extra something. I like the variety in patches but pins just appeal to me more in general. So I ended up picking out three badass pins.
Here's what I got:
  

I'll admit the book pin is channeling my inner spirit. I saw it and wanted it haha. The feminist pin was too cute not to get, although I think they missed a trick on not calling the Gem-inist... The final pin I chose was this Alice pin which I stole for half price from the sale. 
Altogether this is what they look like: 
It's only a like affect but I think they look pretty cool. 
The prices for most of the pins were around £6-£8, with a few half price In the sale. They came really quickly too which was a bonus. Arrived all wrapped in cute tissue paper that I totally forgot to take pic of because... I'm a bad blogger lmao. 
Overalll I'm made up with my purchases and the little extra something they add to my look. 

Have you seen any nice pins? Which ones should I get next? 

Abi x

Ps this isn't sponsored or nowt, I'm just a happy bunny with my purchases! 

Sunday, 23 April 2017

Running, so far...

If I'm honest, this wasn't the post I wanted to write today. I wanted to talk about the good things that have happened recently, talk about the amazing CarnLIVal event that happened the other week, my work on self-dating and other fun things. They all involve a certain degree of happiness to do them justice. Today however, at the time of writing, I'm in a foul mood. It's hard to say why but today I'm definitely much lower in mood.

With that in mind I wanted to talk about a more neutral topic. So that those other posts can be written when I can truly do them justice. This post is instead about a more neutral topic. Today I want to chat about my running progress so far.

At the time of posting I'm around a month away from the half marathon. My first ever race. Part of me I amazed that I have managed to keep up my training. I'm slowly falling in love with running. 
It has so many amazing effects in me that I'm seriously glad I signed up in the first place.
At the moment I'm running roughly three times a week. I'll admit on my longer runs I'm not getting in as many miles as I'd have wanted to by this point, but I'm also not far off my aims. 
The crunch point for me is the speed. In averaging around 13:30 minutes per mile on my better runs. So I've started doing more sprint work and incline running to really push myself.
I don't know what to expect on race day, but I'm really hoping I can push myself that little faster in the moment.
Until then, all I can do is keep training. Stay motivated and keep challenging myself appropriately. 
Any tips for me?
Abi X

Monday, 10 April 2017

It's okay to have setbacks

Well, hello there leading title... It's true though. It's okay to not get things right the first time round. It's okay to not know what you want, to play it safe. 
It's also okay to take risks, to experiment. It's not often life throws a curveball that gives you a chance to explore and get to know yourself better. 
It's okay to try new things and get it wrong. Maybe you don't really suit red hair, but how will you know unless you try it?
It's okay to push yourself and realise you're still in those same old habits. I mean, yet became habitual for a reason? It's the comfort zone, the well worn path.  Even if you hadn't realised it, it's okay to say stop, this isnt what I was after. Or that that attempt to change the pattern don't quite work.
It's okay to not have a plan. To want to explore avenues. It's okay to accept help from those around you, it doesn't make you any less independent. No one has more power over you than you do. 

I guess what this post is trying to say is that it's okay to be you. Even if you're not yet sure what that means.

Abi x

Sunday, 9 April 2017

Self-date 1: Romantic stroll

If you're a bit confused about the title of today's post then I recommend you read this post here. Today I'm talking you through my first "self-date" in which I went for a walk along the stunning Liverpool waterfront.

Now, admittedly going by myself meant the romance was turned down low. Yet it was so freeing to do something purely because I wanted to. 
I'd planned to do a little shopping, pick up a few bits I needed but it was such a sunny day I couldn't resist walking down to the docks. Could you?
It was genuinely so relaxing. I was in no rush and even treated myself to a cheeky ice cream. 
If you're ever up in Liverpool I'd absolutely recommend a walk round the docks. It's a place steeped in history and amazing architecture. It's full of cute shops, cool bars and yummy restaurants.Great if you're with others or flying solo like me.


Where do you recommend I go on my next self-date?

Abi x

Self-date 2: Networking

Okayyy, so technically this isn't a date but hear me out. After attending the #livbloggersignite I took the advice of the Future Boss Club and signed up for a few networking events on Eventbrite.
The first of which was a really cool launch party for Spaces in the beautiful Tea Factory building on Wood Street.
Still confused how this relates to dating?? Well the way I see it is that it takes quite a bit of courage to attend an event completely out of your sphere of influence, knowing no one and network like a star. It was a little bit of a trial of fire for me. I wanted be confident in myself and my brand, even if it is only a wee blog where I talk to myself! It gave me a chance to talk about the passion and time I spend with Blue Striped Square.
The chance to meet new people and talk about their passions. To... try yummy food and lose at Scalextric racing. 
I had great night in total even if i did feel a tad out of place at times! 
The event was a launch party or an amazing set of office spaces. Like, drop dead amazing. It's made me very jealous that I work in a very big standard office in a hospital. My office certainly doesn't equipped with a totally modern shared kitchen or unisex toilets. It doesn't have the opportunity to network with new people and creatively interact. It doesn't come in a stunning architectural mix of old brick and modern glass. 
Sigh.

Abi X
No question today but I dare you to challenge yourself! 

Tuesday, 4 April 2017

Self-dating

I read a lovely post by Northern Blood the other day, talking about how, before we date others we should date ourselves. Deep right? It really struck home to me and reminded me of a point I made in this post.

Having been in long term relationship my whole adult life, one that has now ended, my sense of self has taken a hit. 
I've made lots of positive changes ( and loving them) but I'm still feeling a little lost at times. 
Going back to that blog post by Northern Blood, she recommends everyone should date themselves( at any point in life). To me, this sounds like a fun way to get to know myself again as well as adjusting to being a single pringle. 
So watch this space guys...

Abi x

Still not sold on it? Then check out Abbey's blog post,she gives a few pros to it!