Saturday, 13 May 2017

I don't need your validation

In my head that's said to the intro of Rolling Stones Satisfaction... It seems a dramatic title but actually it's meant as a gentle nudge of education.
I consider myself quite a confident person, I'm mostly quite comfortable in my own skin. To me, a lot of that comes from the fact that I don't use others opinions of me to validate my own. 
Deep, I know. It's something that is easier to say than do. It's something that's taken me a few years to really accept about myself. In fact I used to think I was a bit weird growing up because I didn't seem to want the same stuff other girls at school wanted. 
 
From 14+ I stopped paying attention to what the popular kids were doing because it was never things I could see myself doing. I would spend every minute available reading, to the extent that I'd read whilst walking between classes(yes, I did fall over a few times) because that's what I enjoyed doing. 

I was lucky in that I had a small core group of friends(you know who you are) who understood that that's what I'd do every lunch and break. People that knew I would crack sarcastic  comments and slightly inappropriate remarks at every opportunity. I didn't need the validation of the people around me to be myself. Instead of made friends with people who would accept me as I wanted to be. To me, that meant that the only person who's opinion I would be bothered by was my own.

What I'm saying is, at the end of the day, surround yourself with people who make you relaxed. If you catch yourself acting other than you would naturally  ask yourself why is that? Why don't you feel you comfortable being yourself around them? 

I guess what this rambles mess is trying to say is that we don't need others validation. It's such a bloody simple thing but it can take years to actually live it.

Abi x


Thursday, 11 May 2017

Pinky pins haul

Hey guys! This post is actually pretty self explanatory. I recently took the plunge and bought a denim jacket. Doesn't sound like much of a plunge but it really is for me. For a long time I had this idea that they didn't suit me. I'm not sure where this came from but I decided to challenge it. 
I literally tried on about 20 jackets that I'd liked on the hanger and I was surprised to find most then looked alright. (Shocking). 
In the end I chose this bad boy from Forever 21. It was a steal at £23 ( plus I used my blue light card for an extra 10% off). My only bug bear is that if has two fake pockets at the top. Like why do clothes manufacturers do that? It's seriously bloody annoying haha. Otherwise I really love my wee jacket, and have worn a lot with this nice weather we've had going on.
In order to do it justice for me though, I wanted to add a little bit of chars here to it. 
If you look online there's tons of places selling patches and pins at the moment. For me, I wanted try out Punky Pins, there products always seem to have that little extra something. I like the variety in patches but pins just appeal to me more in general. So I ended up picking out three badass pins.
Here's what I got:
  

I'll admit the book pin is channeling my inner spirit. I saw it and wanted it haha. The feminist pin was too cute not to get, although I think they missed a trick on not calling the Gem-inist... The final pin I chose was this Alice pin which I stole for half price from the sale. 
Altogether this is what they look like: 
It's only a like affect but I think they look pretty cool. 
The prices for most of the pins were around £6-£8, with a few half price In the sale. They came really quickly too which was a bonus. Arrived all wrapped in cute tissue paper that I totally forgot to take pic of because... I'm a bad blogger lmao. 
Overalll I'm made up with my purchases and the little extra something they add to my look. 

Have you seen any nice pins? Which ones should I get next? 

Abi x

Ps this isn't sponsored or nowt, I'm just a happy bunny with my purchases!